02-06-2012, 05:22 PM
Be careful. Phobias are real and getting her over it is NOT just a question of telling her not to be afraid, giving her information, or jolly-ing her into sucking it up.
Mere fear is different, but since childhood trauma is involved, I'm betting she has a real, post traumatic phobia, even if it's little.
Her own courage will help, but I wouldn't suggest ANYBODY do something they are not OK with. You might take her with you, and let her watch you guys get on the ice. Then give her the info (like the charts that show how much weight various ice thicknesses will hold), share your catch and your stories, and let HER decide when she's ok to venture out.
Good luck....I've lived and dealt with someone all my adult life who struggles with stuff like this, and it's pretty complicated at times.
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Mere fear is different, but since childhood trauma is involved, I'm betting she has a real, post traumatic phobia, even if it's little.
Her own courage will help, but I wouldn't suggest ANYBODY do something they are not OK with. You might take her with you, and let her watch you guys get on the ice. Then give her the info (like the charts that show how much weight various ice thicknesses will hold), share your catch and your stories, and let HER decide when she's ok to venture out.
Good luck....I've lived and dealt with someone all my adult life who struggles with stuff like this, and it's pretty complicated at times.
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